Saturday, January 22, 2011

Being satisfied

~ Happy is he who learns to bear what he cannot change. ~
~ Johann Friedrich Von Schiller

This has been quite the week for me. I have been dealing with some stressful issues in my life that have reared their ugly heads lately. This has got me to thinking about a lot of things in my life.

I am never satisfied. Sounds harsh, doesn't it? It seems like no matter where I am in life, I can never stay satisfied. Whether it be my job, my home, finances, weight issues, relationship issues, or whatever, I am always feeling as though something is lacking or these things aren't "good" enough. Friends say "just have faith". Easy to say, hard to do sometimes. I do believe in God but cannot honestly say that I have a personal relationship with Him. Oh, I've tried. But I've failed. Over and over again. I pray. Often. But I don't feel it does any good. Really.

Others say that I am lucky. I have a home, a job, a healthy family that loves me (most of the time, anyway!). And all this is true. I am very fortunate and I know that. But still, something is lacking. Why am I never satisfied???

I don't like this feeling. I don't like not being satisfied. I feel guilty. I feel overwhelmed. I feel depressed. I feel unworthy. I feel sad.

Does anyone else feel this way? If so, what do you do to fix it?

Until next time. . .


  1. Donna,

    Boy does this hit home with me. I consider myself a Christian and try to follow God's lead but the human part of me falls short of being satisfied. I think a lot has to do with Society in and of itself. Always having to keep up with the Jones. The rat race of being better, having more and wanting everything. Not just material things either.
    God does answer prayers, but only if its something good for you. Sometimes the choices we make are not one's God whats for us but that does not mean He stops loving us. You are worthy and special!
    Don't beat yourself up. Love who you are!

  2. Hi Donna,
    Your post really touched me - I think a lot of people feel the way you described at some point in their lives, but when it's a problem is when it becomes chronic -lingering, persistent and interferes with the long term quality of life. Many of the feelings you described sound like depression, and maybe it's time to discuss with your doctor?
    Good luck and keep us posted! Oh, and big hugs going out to you.

  3. I am so sorry your feeling this way Donna.
    I have felt that way myself sometimes and it's not fun. I think society has a lot to do with it. The keeping up with the Jones thing.
    And although I am not a professional, it does sound like your depressed too.
    Sometimes, a chemical imbalance can make things seem awful no matter how they really are.
    Maybe a trip to the Dr. for a check-up?
    If you want, e-mail me anytime and we can talk more.
    Big Hugs,

  4. Oh Donna! My heart goes out to you! I can feel the ache in what you say but it can be fixed!!
    We all try desperately to heal ourselves of the void we feel by trying 'things' but they are empty. We try to reform ourselves but still no peace. It is so good to hear you believe in God that's the start! It's what He has done for us, not what we do, that is the answer! You can have a personal relationship with Him!
    God gave His only Son John 3 verse 16, to bear the punishment for our sins - all our righteousnesses are still not good enough to atone or pay for all the wrongs we have done, for we are all born sinners and like sheep have gone astray Isaiah 53 verse 6 but the Lord Jesus gave His life's blood for our ransom!
    He alone as The Perfect Son of God, could satisfy God's righteousness and was willing to die for us. God now sees the perfect sacrifice of His own dear Son and all we have to do is accept His offer of salvation by confessing our sinful unworthiness and calling upon the Lord Jesus Christ to save us from our sins by cleansing us in His shed blood.
    God wants to give you peace and joy and forgiveness and you can become His child now by asking Him to be our Saviour! He has promised, 'Him that cometh unto me, I will in no wise cast out.' John 6 v. 37
    'Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ and thou shalt be saved' Acts 16 v. 31
    The peace and joy of trusting in Jesus is better than any earthly treasure I can honestly say that HE satisfies every longing!
    You can be saved right now by calling upon Him as 1 John 1 verse 9 says, If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from ALL unrighteousness'
    I pray that right now you will call upon Him and He will save you!
    Praying for you

  5. I forgot to say that if you need to talk about anything, please feel free to email me

  6. Donna, I could have written that post myself, honestly, I feel that way ALL the time! When I was working all I did was complain about my job and thought if only I wasn't there I'd be happy. Well you know I had to quit due to my back, now I'm home all the time and am I happy, NO:( So not sure what the answer is, but just know you are NOT alone ((hugs))

  7. You are not alone in your feelings and I'm afraid I don't know how to fix it...personally, I have always wanted therapy but have never been able to afford it!...I try to do one thing each day that makes me happy and always always count my blessings of which I too have many...I know it's very difficult alot of the time but try your best to see a positive aspect in as many situations as possible and remember that things always get better!


  8. Donna, I'm sorry you have had such a struggle recently. I can't answer your question, "why am I not satisfied"? I can tell you in my own life I struggle with things too, but I can say, I do have a personal relationship with God, through Jesus Christ. It is not what I have done, but what He has. Believe me, if anyone could ever mess up, miss out, fall short, or just plain blow it all, it's me! I have learned though, in spite of all my fowl ups, He absolutely loves me. Period!! He is God, He has the power and ability to love us, and He chooses to do it. I choose to believe Him, that He does love me, no matter what. It is a gift of faith to believe Him, not something you can "get" on your own. Ephesians 2:8-9 tells us He gives us Himself, as a gift, we can't get it on our own, apart from Him. Romans 5:8 tells us Jesus Christ died for us. John 6:28-29 tells us "what do we have to do, to do what God requies? And He says, "The work of God is this: to believe in the one He has sent". The one sent is Jesus Christ. You must believe in Him, ask Him to forgive you for all the fowl ups, the sin, in your life. Then believe Him. Romans 10: 9-10 tells us if we confess our belief with our mouths, and believe in our hearts, we will be saved. That is a personal relationship, He gives, we ask, He does, we receive.
    If you sincerely do this, you will have that relaionship, and He will then begin to help you, and you can find great joy, peace, and satisfaction. It changes you from the inside out, you will be changed for the better, but you must choose to believe Him.
    This is what it means to be born again. You must be born again, through what He does. You would not be asking if He wasn't already trying to help ease your heart, and spirit. A very famous person, who was struggling greatly at the time, was told "just let Him love you, Yancy!" Sometimes we need to stop struggling, and just let Him love us. I will be praying for you, and your family. I hope the time will soon come when you can say, "Yes, I have a personal relationship with God, let me tell you all the good He has done for me"!

  9. Of course, we all do at some time or another. There is no such thing as perfect.
    My favorite sayings are:
    1. Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.
    2. It may not be perfect, but it is perfect for me.
    Part of the serenity prayer is to accept the things you cannot change. The only thing you can change is YOU; how you feel, how you act, how you react. Accept the things you cannot change.
    It is great to have dreams and even better to make them come true. Your prayers aren't unanswered. The answers just haven't been what you expected. God hears you and even if you don't see it or feel it, you do have a relationship with Him, simply by your belief.
    I sincerely hope that these winter blues pass you by quickly.

  10. Everyone has a "God-shaped hole" in their hearts. Asking God forgiveness from our sins and inviting Jesus Christ to be our Lord and Savior is the only answer. If you want to know more, please respond. I'll check back.

  11. Such a touching post..and comments from everyoneLove Christine posts just what I was thinking so prefect Vanessa too..Having a personal relationship with Jesus Christ is the anwser He's done awesome things for me in my life... Let me share ....all He's s done !!!
    Blessings / Prayers

  12. Hi Donna,
    Yes, I've felt the way you are feeling. And I can't add any more advice, it's been said in the previous posts, but just wanted to let you know, your not alone. I'll be praying for you and hoping this time will pass and you'll feel better.


  13. I can't imagine that anyone ever feels 100% satisfied. I hope that this week will be better for you and that you'll come out of your funk!

  14. You are not lucky for the things you have, you are blessed because God chooses to bless you with those things.

    I'm thankful for the Christian women here that are sharing with you how you can have that personal relationship with God. I'm here to tell you personally that I would not want to live my life without Him! My life is far from perfect, but the time I spend talking to God in prayer and the time I spend reading His word, the Bible, truly help me to have faith and make it through each day! Too many women look to anti-depressant pills to help them through the day when all they really need is that personal touch with Christ.

    You say you've tried to have a relationship with God but you've failed. Well, He loves you and never leaves you. Yes, we fall away from Him way too many times, but that's the beauty of our relationship with Him. When we truly ask for His forgiveness, He truly delivers it and accepts us back. He desires you to acknowledge Him, spend time with Him, and praise Him for all the things He has given you. You don't have to "try" at this kind of relationship for His love is unconditional and He wants nothing more than you to love Him back.

    Donna, feel free to contact me any time about any of this. I am so very thankful for all God has done in my life. It is not perfect because I mess up all the time, but I am happy with my life. His love and His mercy help me through each day, each situation I come across.

  15. Donna, I think everyone feels that way sometimes. I certainly do - I'd love to talk to you about this so I think I'll email you after I think and pray about what the Lord would have me to say.